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Friday, October 11, 2013

Be careful on Skype....


English: Skype on mac that is version 5.1.0.935
(Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I got myself dressed up and made up yesterday, leaving out only a wig. I was working from home, and got lost in the problem I was trying to solve. Skype's ringtone started playing, and I looked up to see that it was my mom calling. I answered the call, totally forgetting that I was dressed!

I had reading glasses on, and it's kinda dark out here, so there's a chance she couldn't tell. If she could, she didn't mention it. And she didn't seem surprised. I was very surprised, though! I couldn't do anything except talk.  :)

My wife pointed out later that the sweater I was wearing looks very girlie. She thinks that my mom noticed, but just didn't say anything.

Eeeek!

(Yes, I am a 40+ year old. Yes I am still hiding this from my mom. Yes I still worry about disappointing my mom.)
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Monday, September 9, 2013

Still around

Just wanted to let everyone know that I am still around! It's been a hectic, crazy year so far, but I am hoping that things can get back to normal soon.

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Tips for being a transgender ally


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Found an interesting article on InfoBarrel giving tips on how to be an ally for transgender people. There are some excellent tips in this article. One of the ones that I would share with my non-transgender is:

Defend them: If you are witnessing discrimination or harassment in the form of transphobia then speak up; don’t just stand there and let it happen. The more people ignore the issue, the more people are going to think that harassing transgender people is an acceptable behavior and therefore keep doing it!

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Monday, April 15, 2013

The right to be who I want to be...

I have talked quite a few times about already about getting dressed and leaving the house.  It is something that I've wanted to do many times. I jump started myself earlier this year. I got myself dressed up - in what I think isn't a bad way - and made an excursion to my third place, the Gender Identity Center here in Denver. This is where the monthly cross-dressers meetings are held. I've been enough times that I feel very comfortable there. Comfortable enough that I've gone there dressed outside normal meeting times on a number of different occasions.

This pic shows the first time that I went to the GIC during a "normal" day. I know you can't really tell because of the pixelization, but I have a great big smile on my face! Being out, in the middle of the day, going about my business like there was nothing different from me than anyone else. Do you wanna talk about a sense of freedom? A sense of belonging? A sense that whatever others might believe, I have the right to be me!!! It was fantastic, absolutely incredible. Might even say life-changing.
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Monday, March 25, 2013

Out of my comfort zone, into the wilderness



Out and about at a park

Enjoying a bright, sunny day here in Denver. This was my first time out of the house and the safety of the local gender identity center.

Monday, January 28, 2013

Another post about going out dressed


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Cross dresser going for a coffee run by David Shankbone (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
In a previous post, I linked an article giving suggestions for a cross-dresser to go out while dressed. I found another article over basically that same thing. This was also posted in 2009, which makes me think that is when I should've started going out myself. :)

Anyway, the article is from Crossdresser Heaven. Vanessa describes her first experience going out while dressed. It's quite funny. And it has police officers in it!

As it turns out, the police officer wasn’t outside my apartment waiting for crossdressers and he didn’t pay me much mind. I got into my car without any problems, and was off to my first Tri-Ess meeting.

Over exaggerated fear of what will likely never happen. That’s what I experienced the first time I went out crossdressed, and I have a hunch that I’m not alone.

Read the full story here.

One of these days, I'll post some of my excursion stories.  They range from pathetic (running out in the rain in a sports bra, shorts and pantyhose) to the awesome (taking nature pictures on a walking trail).
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Friday, January 25, 2013

Benefits of getting out

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Not me! [grin] (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Found an older post on +Jessica Who? titled 15 Steps To Better Crossdressing. One of the tips was about going outside, getting out of the house for closed cross-dressers. This hit pretty close to home since I've only been out and about a couple times in the last few years. All of those times were recently, so it's a topic that is close to mind.

For those who can step out, it is a liberating experience often difficult to put into words. There are many obstacles that we face along the way and just being ourselves out in the world can help us overcome a lot of negative issues.

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I've gotta tell you, Jessica hits right on the nose with that one. Having to stay closeted adds into that feeling of being an outsider, being abnormal. My subconscious tells me "you have to stay inside because you are a freak, and can't be seen by anyone else!!!" (Yes, I tend to have a bit of a self-degrading side.)

Being out there, though. It's liberating, but not just in a "I don't have to hide away in my cave" way. The stronger part of being liberated, though, is it allows one to shed some of that "I am a freak and have to be invisible" feeling. When one is out - even if it is only for a drive, going to a park, going through a Starbucks drive-through - one feels normal. One feels like they are not isolated, not an outcast.

For anyone who hasn't, try to find a safe place, or a safe time, and go for a drive dressed! Just that little bit of freedom can make you feel incredible!

- N

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Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Another Cross-dressing meeting (June 4, 2012)

Headed to another cross-dressers meeting on Friday night. This time around, I was feeling pretty confident. My plan was to get to the meeting, sneakily slip into my new skirt and top, then do my makeup. That almost worked, though it turned out that I am not very sneaky. It took forever for me to get into the damned things without showing the world much more than they'd ever want to see of me! T thought it was hysterical, absolutely hysterical!

One thing that didn't occur to me 'til we were half-way to the GIC: it was going to be bright daylight out when we got there. The last time I was able to go to a meeting, it was nice and concealingly dark outside. This time around, not so much. I had no choice but to change and get made up out in the daylight. Eeek!

So after the humiliating fight with my outfit, it was time to get started on my makeup. The first thing I noticed is that I didn't bring any eyeliner. Bummer! I figured I would try and compensate by doing my eyeshadow and mascara a little darker. That's when I noticed I was out of mascara. :P

Just taking random pictures around the apartment.As I was working on the eyeshadow, T said to wait just a sec. Up ahead, there was a late teenage boy walking straight towards us on the sidewalk. The kid was obviously either drunk or stoned - he could not walk a straight line. T was worried that the kid had seen me putting on eyeshadow. I put down the compact and tried to look normal as he passed by my car. I held my breath until he got past the back of the car, T didn't really relax until the kid was half-way down the block. Mi prima had my back!


After he passed, I finished putting on the makeup I did have with. I especially like the lipstick I have - my friend S is a Mary Kay rep and she got me set up with a good color. I definitely like it, dunno if anyone else did. Blended dark green (ivy garden) and light green (lemon grass) along with a brown (caramel). It made a pretty cool blend. I didn't get a good pic though.

English: Silhouette of a clipboard to the leftIt was another interesting meeting, if only for its mundaneness. I am always a little surprised - pleasantly surprised - that for the most part, its no different than any other club meeting. Linux meetings, political party meetings, cross-dresser meetings, they all boil down to one thing: a group of people sharing what interests them. Once you get past the initial "there's a man in women's clothing" reaction, everything else is extremely familiar.


This meeting we talked about buying girlie stuff out in public, some of the cool activities that the GIC and our meet-up group have planned for the summer, how people pick their names, etc.  There were times when I wanted to try and direct the flow of the meeting - I don't know when I picked up this meeting facilitator mindset, but it is there, and I get very annoyed if I think the pace of the meeting needs to be picked up or slowed down.

Anyway, after the meeting, I got back into guy mode, then T and I went home. After stopping for some refreshments at Sonic. Yum!
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